“Hurry up, answer the question!”
“You knew this last week—what happened?”
Have you ever felt scared when someone asked you a question and your mind went blank? The person kept bugging you for an answer, but you were frozen and unable to answer. I saw this last night on television—chefs rolled a die and had to come up with a meal ingredient that began with that letter. Most of them froze for a moment, even though they knew the answer.
Do you know why it’s so hard to answer questions when people are badgering you or you feel pressured? The answer lies in the reptilian brain, also known as the primitive brain. When something stressful happens, like being put on the spot, you probably want to do one of three things: lash out (fight), run away (flight), or stop in your tracks like a frightened deer (freeze).
Welcome to the world of the reptilian or basic brain. As the first level of our brains to develop, it takes care of the most basic functions—safety and survival. It doesn’t matter who you are, your reptilian brain has the ability to shut you down in an instant if it feels threatened or unsafe. And when I say shut you down, I mean it literally. It may be happening to your child every day.
Your child isn’t learning because for some reason, his or her nervous system is currently un-integrated. That means that the reptilian brain is in control because the other two brains, the limbic system and the neocortex, aren’t actively communicating with the basic brain. The reason for this probably goes back to the first few years of life when the brain was developing. Or because some trauma has unraveled your child and put him or her back into survival mode, in which the reptilian brain thrives. An un-integrated nervous system means that the reptilian brain is calling all the shots.
You’ve seen the results of this lack of integration: aggressive behavior, fiery temper for no reason, smart mouthing, walking away in the middle of a challenging discussion, or standing there looking like a deer in the headlights. These immature behaviors are typical of kids labeled as learning disabled, because that’s what this “lizard” or basic brain is all about—sensing danger, gearing up for survival, and fiercely protecting itself until its instincts tell it that the immediate danger has passed.
This information is shocking to many of my clients, and you may think this information couldn’t possibly apply to you or your child. You live in a nice house in a “good” neighborhood, with plenty of food and all the creature comforts. None of that matters if your child feels different or isn’t learning the way the other kids are. His or her brain is experiencing fear every day and is focused on survival, and it cannot learn as long as the reptilian brain is in charge.
Books Neural Therapy™ helps to integrate the nervous system and put the reptilian brain in its rightful place alongside the limbic system and neocortex. In the next blog, we’ll talk more about the fascinating hindbrain.