Dealing with the signs and symptoms of dyslexia and ADHD can be frustrating for children and adults. Sometimes this frustration hits crisis level and triggers self-destructive behavior. Some children and adults focus their frustration and destructive behavior outward, and others take out their annoyance and upset on themselves.
When children with ADHD or dyslexia feel bad about their learning challenges, they may target those who make them feel inferior or bad. If they feel bullied, they may lash out at people they know won’t fight back, including parents, siblings, friends, and teachers. They often act out in a destructive manner because they don’t know any other way to release their anger or frustration. It’s a cry for help disguised as aggression.
This lashing out can take many forms, from yelling to hitting to spreading rumors. It’s believed that at least three-quarters of adults in jail and nine out of 10 boys in juvenile detention have learning disabilities such as dyslexia or ADHD.
This anger destroys relationships, just when the child needs friends and support. These children hide, suppress, and deny so much of themselves that they don’t realize they’re hurting the very people who love them the most. Their friends and family give them space thinking they’re helping, but in reality, the space provides confirmation of those bad feelings and frustration.
On the other hand, when children with dyslexia turn their anger inward, they destroy themselves. They may show signs of depression or bipolar disorder. A common self-destructive behavior is called “cutting”, which is self-mutilation done with scissors, pens, razor blades, or pocketknives—anything that can break the skin. This behavior is most common among teens, but we also see it among children and adults of all ages. It seems extreme, but it has become incredibly common.
I hesitate to mention this, but severe depression, being bullied, and solitude may trigger a suicide attempt. Yes, it sounds like I’m being dramatic, but in all honesty, parents would be stunned to know what their children tell me every day. Suicide has become one of the major causes of death in youth under 21 in the United States. In other countries, such as Japan, the death rate is staggering.
Unfortunately, when children show any emotional or mental problem, they are referred to someone who prescribes medication. These medications are typically anti-anxiety drugs or anti-depressants. They have extreme side effects and may not help the underlying issues when used alone without therapy. A number of natural approaches, such as Books Neural Therapy, work more effectively than medication and do not have the severe side effects. In addition, BNT reverses dyslexia and ADHD in the majority of clients.
When our children are suffering, we cannot ignore it or stick our heads in the sand. We need to face the anger, depression, and loneliness head-on. We cannot let it go on hoping that things will change. If we don’t talk to our children, we may lose them.
We need to act quickly any time our children have issues that trigger self-destructive behavior. If anything here resonates with you or describes your child, please contact me immediately.